Recently, a male friend of mine and I have had some sort of a discussion, whether giving flowers to a girl is a cool and totally appreciated thing, or if it's somewhat cheesy and forgive-me'ish. I think we basically agreed on it, but it seems like the rest of the world disagrees. I mean… I'm a girl. And I love getting flowers. It doesn't matter if it's from my dad, a boyfriend, a date, a friend or my brother. I love getting flowers. And he loves giving flowers to girls (which makes us the perfect couple, except that we're just friends).
But, everyone else seems to think that when a guy gives a girl flowers, especially if it's a girl he's romantically involved with, he sorry for something. And typically, he gets accused of cheating. I mean… Here's a guy, trying to impress a girl that he really, really likes, and buys her flowers for more money than he really can afford (he's been saving up for that new car, you know…), and instead of a "thank you" or a kiss on the cheek, she accuses him of cheating on her, or somehow guilt trips him. Seriously… Girls are evil! He's just trying to be nice, and show his dream girl that he really likes her, and maybe he even writes a somewhat crappy, but still sweet poem, and all he gets is the door in his face. Why, girls, why? Do we not like flowers anymore? I still love flowers, and I still want to be given flowers. But the way that guys get beaten up for giving us flowers, some day they just might stop. Do we want that to happen? No! So be nice to the "flower men". We need them.
So… Why do I like flowers? Well… They're pretty, for one. And I've never been spoiled when it comes to flowers (maybe because I kill them?). But still. It's the thought of it. The appreciation. A flower can say so much more than chocolates and perfume and gifts (though I probably wouldn't reject either of them). And one single flower, such as a rose, or a lily (lilies are my favorite) is fascinating, one way or another. It gets noticed, it gets cared for, and the beauty of it never fades (until they die, though).
Everyone remembers in high school, at the prom, where the girls who didn't have a date, and didn't dance were called "wall flowers", right? Well… What on earth is wrong with being a wall flower? Even wall flowers are flowers. And they usually are beautiful! What child didn't read the story about the ugly baby duck that turned into a swan? Everyone has their ups and downs. And I shit you not: The people who are wall flowers in high school usually are the most interesting and gifted ones later in life. The real losers are the beauty queens. They never really learn to pick their fights. And they never learn to stand up for themselves.
I might even be the shallowest person you can imagine. I even admit that looks do matter when I approach someone. Not the pure beauty of it, but the grace a person carries themselves with. The way they light up. People seem to forget how much a smile can mean. How much it does to you. Dress up, dress down, curl or straighten your hair and add some color! It doesn't matter. But put a smile on your face, make yourself look good. Beauty is appreciated no matter where in the world you are. Why not make the best of it. I'm not saying that you should use an hour in front of the mirror every day. Just give it SOME effort. Try to smile, try to put smiles on other people's faces. Be a flower.
Appreciate the beauty you have, not the beauty you could have had. It doesn't matter what your starting point is, you'll still be the one drawing up the finish line. Just be the beauty you can be. Give it a try. Show your personality, the good side of it. Be a better person. And be beautiful. You can cheat your looks by being a beautiful personality, but you can't cheat a beautiful personality by being a good look.
The only thing that can be described as beautiful, with absolutely no personality at all, is a flower. That's power. Flower power.
XOXO
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